1. Start Small, Be Consistent - Set Your Goals
- Long-term Goals: Big, Seemingly Impossible, Will Possibly Take 5 Years or More to Reach Goals - Write it down and keep it where you can see it daily!
- Short-term Goals: Goals that are achievable through consistent hard work and discipline and can be accomplished within 2 years time.
- Small Goals: Goals that can be accomplished within a few months but move you along the path to reaching your Short-term and "Impossible" Goals
- Micro Goals: Small "wins" you can earn for yourself daily/weekly that feel good to accomplish and help build confidence and consistency needed to reach your bigger goals.
2. Examine Your Goals and Uncover Your Motivations Behind Them
- Why is this a goal of yours?
- What do you think you will gain by accomplishing it?
- Are your goals driven by self loathing or by self love?
Knowing what is your motivation for setting your goals will help you determine whether or not you will be able to commit to accomplishing them. When the journey gets difficult and you want to give up, remembering why you started in the first place can help you to keep going. If your motivation behind setting the goal isn't a high priority in your life, than accomplishing that goal will not likely become a priority either. Ensuring that our reason for setting a goal is actually important to us prior to beginning to try and achieve that goal will help us avoid unnecessary disappointment.
If you have goals based on something you dislike about yourself or something you wish didn't exist, then you have some rewiring of your thoughts and heart that needs to be taken care of. No one ever hated themselves into improving. Negative thoughts will demotivate you and discourage you and every setback will contribute to that negative narrative. This will more often than not lead you to the opposite of reaching your goals.
We are unlikely to go out of our way to help someone we don't much like, but much more likely to try to help if someone we love is doing something harmful or unhealthy. You need to love and care about YOU in order to give yourself the tough love, support, and encouragement you need to make positive changes. In order to be successful on this journey, we need to change the way we think, feel, and talk about ourselves. Positive self-talk, believing in yourself - your abilities and your worth - will help make this journey a much more positive experience, and make you much more likely to succeed.
3. Rewrite Your Goals As Statements As Though You have Already Accomplished Them
Goal: "I want to be able to run 3 miles without stopping"
Rewrite it like this: "I am a runner. My legs are powerful and strong. My lungs are powerful and strong. Running makes me feel free. I am healthy, vibrant, strong, and have more energy than ever before."
Do this exercise for all of your small, short-term, and big goals. Create a poster or vision board that encompasses the "New You." Include your rewritten goals on it as well as pictures that represent what those goals look like for you. Put this vision board where you can see it daily for inspirations and add to it the goals you have already accomplished as you progress on your journey.
Allow the images to become real in your mind and envision what life will feel like when those goals become your reality. Revisit your board whenever you feel like quitting, or fall off track to remind you why you started this journey in the first place.
4. Create a Plan For Accomplishing Your Goals
Come up with a plan that leads directly to the most immediate and easiest to accomplish goal. Remember, small achievements that lead towards our greater goals will help to motivate us to keep moving. Having a plan in place will help you to avoid detours and road blocks that will discourage or distract you from reaching your goals.
If you don't know which exercises will help you build the right muscles or burn the most calories, you are more likely to waste time at the gym doing the wrong workouts. This will make reaching your goals take so long that you end up feeling discouraged and wanting to give up.
If you don't plan out what you are going to eat, you will more likely end up eating whatever ends up in front of you at the time you realize you are hungry. All too often this will be what is quick and convenient and not necessarily helpful for reaching your goals. Having a step-by-step plan of what to do, knowing how to accomplish the most results in the least amount of time, will remove many of the barriers that get in the way of you gaining the results you desire.
5. Find Support and Accountability.
Surround yourself with others who are on a similar journey to yours who you can work alongside while making progress. Having someone who can relate to you, encourage you and share in the struggles and successes will make this journey a lot more fun. The accountability that comes with working towards your goals within the context of a group is so important for creating lasting change in our lives.
Being able to cheer others on when they are struggling will motivate you to continue fighting for yourself as well. Within a supportive community you are able to learn from others mistakes, and have a friend who can help you pick up and keep going when you hit those inevitable setbacks and snags along the way. If you fall off track, you will have a group of people who will stand by you and help you get back on.
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